Diary of a Bride
So I am getting married and that too rather late in life. I
was sailing through life without any serious intention of finding a life
partner. Of course I would feel wistful when I saw all my friends with their
familiies and yes I would miss having someone to talk to at the end of the day
but I also liked my single status quite a lot. Then BOOM – everything changed
after Durga Puja in October 2013. My school friend asked me to meet one of her
friends who was still single and I agreed. I remember that first week when he
messaged me so clearly. From day one I felt a connection with Rudra (that’s his
name) and after a week of messaging I was ready to meet him in person. Now when
we talk, we realize that both of us came very close to blowing the whole thing
off. But God and fate intervened and we managed to meet and hit it off well
from day one. I felt a sense of peace and wellbeing when I was with him and his
caring, loving nature really touched my heart. So when he proposed marriage to
me on 2nd Nov, I said yes without any hesitation.
Then came all the usual things that happen when two people
decide to join their lives. His family and my family got involved and my dream
of getting married in my own living room with only my near and dear ones flew
out of the window. From wanting to just do the legal thing I went to agreeing
to all the Hindu marriage rituals. And that was just the start! Everyone has an
opinion about the saree I should wear, the gifts I should buy – even my
honeymoon destination came up for discussion!. Some of my friends have even
invited themselves and others to my wedding without thinking twice. What do you
say to such people? Also, now that I have agreed to a Bengali wedding, I most
vehemently do not want Mehendi or Sangeet or any dance parties. The task that I
now have on my hands is to discourage my aunts from dancing at my wedding in
front of my in-laws who are way more conservative and will not like the vision
of the bride’s relatives dancing away in wild abandon. Somebody please save me
from this comedy of horrors!
As the days to my wedding pass by, I am beginning to realize
how much I need to change and adjust. I am lucky to be getting married into a
family that already loves me a lot. However, having been the primary decision
maker for the last four years, I now have to consider the opinions of my
in-laws and my fiance. This in itself is such a huge adjustment for me. Not that
I do not like it. It only shows how much they care about me when they refuse to
let me walk home alone or feed me constantly with all kinds of delicacies. I
only hope that I become an integral part of their family and earn their love
and respect.
Coming to my fiance, what can I say about him without
sounding like a fool in love? He is the sweetest guy in the world but provoke
his temper and you will feel the lash of his tongue and believe you me – that stings
like anything. I feel blessed to have him in my life and I want to make him
happy from the bottom of my heart. I think I should not say too much about him
here – readers will only laugh and shake their heads at me.
There is exactly a month left to the D-day. All I pray for
is a little peace and for the wedding to happen without any glitches. Our
married life together should begin on a high note and that should set the
standard for the rest of our lives. J
